Introducing Boogie Down Bytes
Introducing “Boogie Down Bytes”! Here, you will find a collection of brief but thought-provoking ideas on a variety of subjects. “Boogie Down Bytes” is my attempt to provoke thought and discussion by offering reflections on leadership, relationships, and famous people. Sometimes, I share ideas that haven’t fully matured into standalone pieces, whether that be a blog post or a short essay. Enjoy one byte at a time; we hope you enjoy the ride. If an idea catches your interest and you’d like me to explore the topic further, please let me know.
So Here are few ideas that have fluttering in my head, typically early in the am or late at night.
Nice people can also be incredibly manipulative, weaponizing emotions in very imperceptible ways.
Nice people can sometimes have their wrinkles and motivations. They might use feelings to control others without being obvious. This kind of control can be hard to see but can affect you a lot. They might make you feel guilty or sad to get what they want. The problem is they still seem nice on the outside. To notice this, you need to understand feelings well. Think carefully about what they do and why. Trust your feelings if you sense a pattern.
New leaders demonstrate a lack of awareness and integrity when they ask of you what they themselves could not do when they once sat in your seat/position.
New supervisor and leaders to an organization often forget their own hard times. They might ask you to do things they couldn’t do themselves in their careers – but that’s not how they will tell it. This shows empathy or awareness or a mixture of both. When leaders/manager/supervisors do this, it makes people lose trust in them. Good leaders remember their own struggles and acknowledge their shortcomings. They should lead by being honest and not projected an inaccurate image of their accomplishments. Good leaders make their team feel supported and normalize common challenges. Being kind and understanding is key to good leadership.
Clarence Thomas is the most dangerous black man in America according to a few brilliant scholars – I agree.
Clarence Thomas has a lot of power in the Supreme Court. His decisions affect us all and not in good ways whether you believe that or not is not an easy thing to unravel. Some people think his choices often hurt civil rights. They see him as a threat to progress and a mockery of the spirit of Thurgood Marshall who stood for the very things he looks to deconstruct, the very things that allowed him the opportunity to ascend to the highest court. It’s important to watch how his decisions change things. What he decides can and is starting to shape the country for multiple generations. We need to be aware of his influence. Perhaps we need to expand the court or institute term limits for SC Justices.
Although at times they are and need to be, relationships are not transactional. Do good and be good for goodness’ sake.
Relationships shouldn’t always be about give and take. Sometimes, people just need to be kind and do good things. True friendships are based on caring, not trading favors. Doing nice things should come from the heart, not because you expect something back. Being real and kind makes relationships strong. Doing good just because it’s the right thing makes life better. True kindness doesn’t expect a reward. Build friendships on real care and honesty.
